The media is running sexual harassment stories as much as a crack addict uses drugs. To the point that we say “This is crazy, it can’t be that bad” and it’s not.
First lets look at the definition of Sexual Harassment:
Sexual harassment is bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors. In most modern legal contexts, sexual harassment is illegal. (Wikipedia)
Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature that tends to create a hostile or offensive work environment. (Legal definition)
The one thing that both of these definitions shared is that sexual harassment is determined by the accuser. When and if it gets to court is when the accused has a say.
Not too fair. Why do we say “not to fair?” Because in America, you are innocent until proven guilty. Unless the media wants to make money on you and then, your guilty by public opinion.
So why is the media going crazy over these stories? The answer is really simple. They have nothing else to report. The media is a business that makes its money over your reactions of a situation. If you have no reaction, they make no money. Want the stories to end, ignore them.
So what do all of these stories do to society as a whole?
It really screws with societies head. Let’s look at the harsh truth. Hollywood and the entertainment community including the political realm is full of sex stories. Who doesn’t know this? Now you add people with normal lives that want some type of excitement and you have a story.
Another harsh truth. Most sexual harassment lawsuits never make it to court. Mainly for two reasons. The accused has no money to sue for or the accusations are fabricated. You see sexual harassment is a civil issue and the state only gets involved if a state law is broken.
People need to realize that not everybody acts the same way everywhere in the world. And for you to expect proper english and manners from everybody, you yourself could be insulting others and not even realizing it.
Like: Hispanic folks are a very touchy, kissy group of people. If you’re a friend or family member, you are going to get kisses and hugs. By everybody. Don’t freak. It’s a complement.
People in the inner city cuss and tease a lot. It’s not meant to be mean, it’s just their vocabulary skills and how they show good intention to others. If somebody drops the “F” bomb every 3rd word, or teases you, calm down. Realize where you are. If they cuss in front of you in a normal conversation, they like you. It’s not sexual harassment.
Finally: If you wear clothing that is “eye candy” to others. Why are you shock that they responded in an aroused way? You wore the clothes to create a reaction. You got a reaction. Deal with it and if it’s a reaction you didn’t want, don’t wear the “eye candy.”